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What makes a hoe, a hoe ?

Pretty much everyone on earth has heard the term ‘hoe’ at some point now. Well what is it exactly ? Is there a concrete definition ? What is one supposed to look like  ? Well here’s what a few women we asked said: 

“Honestly I think a “hoe” defines more of the person who is using it than towards the person it’s being thrown onto. It displays a level of jealousy, envy or dismissive attitude”

“…A HOE IS A HOE if we talking gardening tools …But a HOE (whore ) is A promiscuous person no matter the gender .. who sleeps with or makes excessive sexual advances to another individual who they have no ties with.. Paid or unpaid .. yous a hoe .”

“People only call those a hoe who have no ties and don’t conform to social beliefs.We are animalistic. It’s simple. It’s also called ‘Dating & Mating’”

“Mating process of natural desire of sex and intimacy. I think our bodies can withstand the stresses of sex physically now spiritually is a different argument. Not everyone has the same spiritual meter or capacity as the next so it’s up to that person to understand how much energy they can hold.”

Now when type “define hoe” into the google search bar the first thing you get is some dads in boots gardening. Valid.

If you start clicking around and you happen to land on urban dictionary, you get these definitions:

“Justin Bieber.”

“A trash bag who thinks who thinks having sex with only one person means one person at a time. Has sex with multiple people and thinks it’s ok to do that. Can be male or female.”

“Who sleeps with a lot of guys that girl is a Hoe.”

So ask you can see there’s quite a few definitions in just two different platforms. I didn’t find official definition so maybe it’s just whatever you make it. 

What’s your definition ? Let us know in the comments !

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Sex Workers Are People Too

A lot of people don’t believe that sex workers are real people. They believe that because of the nature of their work they deserve any malice that may come as a result (nevermind that the malice is only a result of their very way of thinking). Prostitutes especially perceived to be the scum of the human species.

So first of all, what is a sex worker ? A sex worker is a person whose work involves sexually explicit behavior; especially : prostitute. How to use sex worker in a sentence.

If you do a quick google search about sex work you’ll stumble upon a lot of talk about decriminalizing the field and considering a “real” form of work. One woman speculates this about why sex work isn’t legal, “It’s no coincidence that it is work associated with women which is often deemed not-to-be work, and therefore underpaid and undervalued. Like caring and domestic work, prostitution is a form of “women’s work” which involves us asking for money for something which, under capitalism and patriarchy, we’re expected to give for free.

Work is bad. Capitalism means we sell our labour in ways that often feel exploitative or alienating. More and more of us are doing precarious, low-paid work where we answer to a boss and  have scant access to labor rights.”

Another woman who is also a worker recently went live on Facebook recently to share her piece because she’s also tired of the derogatory comments targeted towards her and her field. “A lot of people don’t realize that men participate just as much.” “I have an onlyFans page…I’ve been a dominatrix before and I’m probably about to get back to it.” “I have an onlyFans and we’re not prostitutes.” She then lists out all the reasons she got to this point.

The main similarities between these two women and the millions of other sex workers is that they just want to work safely and they want to retain basic human rights.

Check out this vice article on tips for how to treat any sex workers you know !

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Consent

Today we’re going to talk about consent. Because contrary to popular belief self-proclaimed hoes and hoes by reputation alike have real feelings. They have real minds that are traumatically affected by people who see them as sexual objects when they are not in a sexual mode. Outside of the sexual realm they have other human wants and desires. One of those desires is to stay safe.

Here’s what Planned Parenthood’s website says about sexual consent: 

“Sexual consent is an agreement to participate in a sexual activity. Before being sexual with someone, you need to know if they want to be sexual with you too. It’s also important to be honest with your partner about what you want and don’t want.

Consenting and asking for consent are all about setting your personal boundaries and respecting those of your partner — and checking in if things aren’t clear. Both people must agree to sex — every single time — for it to be consensual.

Without consent, sexual activity (including oral sex, genital touching, and vaginal or anal penetration) is sexual assault or rape. Consent is easy as FRIES

Freely given. Consenting is a choice you make without pressure, manipulation, or under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

Reversible. Anyone can change their mind about what they feel like doing, anytime. Even if you’ve done it before, and even if you’re both naked in bed.

Informed. You can only consent to something if you have the full story. For example, if someone says they’ll use a condom and then they don’t, there isn’t full consent.

Enthusiastic. When it comes to sex, you should only do stuff you WANT to do, not things that you feel you’re expected to do.

Specific. Saying yes to one thing (like going to the bedroom to make out) doesn’t mean you’ve said yes to others (like having sex).

You get the final say over what happens with your body. It doesn’t matter if you’ve hooked up before or even if you said yes earlier and then changed your mind. You’re allowed to say “stop” at any time, and your partner needs to respect that.

Consent is never implied by things like your past behavior, what you wear, or where you go. Sexual consent is always clearly communicated — there should be no question or mystery. Silence is not consent. And it’s not just important the first time you’re with someone. Couples who’ve had sex before or even ones who’ve been together for a long time also need to consent before sex — every time.

There are laws about who can consent and who can’t. People who are drunk, high, or passed out can’t consent to sex. There are also laws to protect minors (people under the age of 18) from being pressured into sex with someone much older than them.

The age of sexual consent is how old a person needs to be in order to be considered legally capable of consenting to sex. Adults who have sex with someone younger than the age of consent face jail time and being registered as a sex offender. The age of consent varies in different parts of the U.S. and in different countries. There may also be other laws that define the age of sexual consent by state.”

You can read their full article here.

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